Why Have Only One Best Friend?

Why Have Only One Best Friend?

When John and I started dating, I remember telling him about my best friends. Each time I told him of another one of my “best friends,” he’d laugh and say, “Just how many ‘best friends’ can one person have?” When you think about it, the term “best friend” is really arbitrary. If the term is defined by who one is closest to, for me at least, that differs immensely by where I am, when it is, and the context of the friendship. For instance: Courtney, a fellow military wife, has been my best friend in recent months. She woke up at 6:00 AM to come to the airport and hold my hand as my husband’s flight took off for his long deployment and proceeded to take me out for coffee and go shopping with me, making the day fun instead of heartbreaking. She texted with me at 1 in the morning when I couldn’t sleep, invites me over for dinner with her and her husband and listens empathetically any time I just need to talk about how much I miss my dear husband. My gratitude for her seems unparalleled by any other act of kindness anyone has shown me lately. …and then I think of my post college years, when it was my beautiful roommates Camille and Chelsea. They were both amazing at keeping me in line, speaking the Truth in love and making me laugh more than I ever have before. While Chels and I will have to agree to disagree on the merits of eating cookie dough for breakfast and Camille will just have to go ahead...
Efficacious Signs

Efficacious Signs

This Holy Week, we are called to reflect on the way God loves us. He sent his only Son to die for our sins… that’s a powerful love! Paragraph 1613 of the Catechism asserts that Christian marriages are to be “efficacious signs” of Christ’s love for His Church. Married couples should resemble the way Christ loved his Church through their love and devotion towards each other. Their covenant is meant to be used as an evangelizing tool to show others how lovely and pure God’s love is for us.  If that kind of deep love can be present here on Earth, just imagine how deep God’s love is for us. Other relationships can be efficacious signs as well. Obviously marriage is the epitome of the term since Paul makes it clear in his letter to the Ephesians, but recently I’ve been reflecting of the profound love of parents. A couple days ago I went to see the movie October Baby, and was moved to tears by the sheer force and depth of the love two adopted parents had for their daughter. The father tells his adopted daughter that he and his wife declared bankruptcy, lost their house, and basically sacrificed everything for their little miracle baby that their insurance wouldn’t pay for since she wasn’t “theirs” at the time. I think the reason it moved me so much is because it sounds like something my parents would do in a heartbeat for me. I was a really weird kid. I’m sure everyone says that about themselves, but the pictures of my gigantic purple glasses and me embracing the oh so geeky...
God’s Gift of Girlfriends

God’s Gift of Girlfriends

by Mary Walker One of my favorite stories in the Bible is when Mary finds out she’s pregnant with Jesus, she goes to see her cousin, Elizabeth. She joyfully tells her the good news and Elizabeth, “filled with the Holy Spirit, cried out with a loud voice and said, “most blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of your womb” Mary responded with the Magnificat, in my opinion, one of the most beautiful prayers in the Bible, “My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord, my spirit rejoices in God my savior.” (Luke 1: 39-50) Mary and Elizabeth knew that women need other women to fully celebrate the joy we experience in life. We need our girlfriends! I remember taking a summer class on the political plays of Shakespeare. I didn’t understand a lot of it and I doubted I’d get higher than a C in the class. When my grade appeared online as an A-, I gave a shout of delight and instantly looked for someone with which to share this amazing news! I told a neighbor lady who shouted and gave me a hug, and I told my mom who gave similar expression of excitement. When my then-fiancé got home from work and I told him, he, with a straight face, blandly said, “oh that’s great, congratulations.” I was extremely let down until I realized that he was excited for me, he just didn’t express it in the way I was used to hearing from my girlfriends. A deacon once told me, “women process their own emotions by communicating them and hearing a response...