Why Remembering Miscarriages Matters

Why Remembering Miscarriages Matters

Every life matters.  As a Catholic and a staunch pro-lifer, I believe this firmly. I always have. It’s why I worked for several years at a non-profit devoted to “saving the babies” and was part of the pro-life group in college. Each child is a gift from God, even if the circumstances of his conception are less than favorable. Every baby deserves to live, to be born, to love and be loved, to be remembered.  This isn’t just my opinion. It’s truth. Why then do we place such a taboo on speaking about miscarriage and infant loss? When a baby is created, it’s a new life. It should be celebrated, and it when all is going well, it usually is. We have baby showers and send gifts. We wait with joyful anticipation for that happy day to arrive.   But, when that happy day doesn’t arrive, when baby passes away and there is no bundle of joy to cuddle, quite often the talking stops. Coworkers don’t know what to say and the people at Mass aren’t quite sure of how to approach the issue of your dwindling belly, so they simply don’t. Sometimes, even we as parents hesitate to bring up these babies, named or otherwise, when asked how many children we have. Society tells us that life is about the here and now. YOLO, right? Anything that may diminish our immediate enjoyment should be shunned and eschewed from polite conversation. As Christians though, we know that, yes, we do only live once. The thing that we understand though that the world may never get is that our real...
Quick note: local pro-life victory

Quick note: local pro-life victory

Our Shreveport readers may be particularly interested in this, but others of a pro-life persuasion can cheer as well. I received the following email a few days ago from the local coordinator of our 40 Days for Life effort (links added by me): Abby Johnson called me last night and said that one of the workers from “Hope” [Medical Group in Shreveport, one of our two local abortion facilities] quit her job!  She apparently wrestled with it for a long time and finally couldn’t take it anymore.  She packed everything up and moved out of town.  For a while she was homeless, keeping her kids in her car while she looked for a job.  She contacted Abby’s ministry “And Then There Were None“.  They helped her and within days she had a place to live and a new job.  She was also asking Abby for moral support from the Shreveport area.  So please say a special prayer today for this woman and her family. Please find a way to get involved with 40 Days for Life. Whether it is praying in front of a clinic, praying for those who visit the clinic, or praying for those who work at the clinic, you can see the common...
“A difficult decision”

“A difficult decision”

Thanks to summer break I’ve been catching up on outdated reading materials, including many back issues of the National Catholic Register. I’ve seen several stories therein where pro-choice advocates argue that women face “difficult decisions” in whether or not to abort their babies. Unstated in most of these arguments is why the decision is difficult. It would seem that, as the product of sexual activity, the decision should be hardly difficult at all. After all, our culture has done a lot to demystify and desacralize the sexual act, making it not much more important or significant than playing ping-pong with someone. How can a trivial and recreational act so frequently lead to a situation with “very difficult circumstances?” Further, isn’t it odd that, faced with these “difficult decisions,” the pro-choice advocate always pushes for the women to have less information? To want the input of fewer people (like boyfriends, family members, crisis pregnancy centers, pray-ers outside of abortion clinics, or doctors who object to killing the baby)? In what other “difficult decisions” do we think it better for people to have less information or to have restricted contact with people before making the decision? We are constantly told that we need to engage a diversity of opinions, yet pro-choice advocates strenuously push for pregnant women to be close-minded and not to seek pro-life opinions about this “very difficult decision.” You receive more information in your credit card bill about the effects of late payments (“it will take you this long to pay off your balance, you will have paid this much in interest…”) than you do about the real effects of abortion from...
Deciding whether to abort

Deciding whether to abort

LifeSiteNews has an interesting review of a study by the Vitae Foundation on what drives women to abort, place for adoption, or keep their children. First, despite efforts to sugar-coat abortion as an inconsequential decision, the study showed respondents “revealed a great deal of [emotional] conflict. Most of the respondents experienced a deep moral dilemma as they struggled with making a decision.” The three options (abort, adopt, keep) aren’t considered simultaneously: The first step is the decision of whether to carry the child to term or to abort. If the decision is made to carry to term or if a woman procrastinates past the point where abortion is an option, then the second step is the decision to keep the child or place the child for adoption. This … has major implications for Pregnancy Help Centers and anyone who counsels women in this situation. For example, it is not necessary to talk about adoption at step one.” Those who decide to abort feel strongly that having a baby does not fit their self-identity at the time of their pregnancies. They fear that who they are and who they are destined to be in the future will be destroyed if they carry their pregnancies to term. They feel that to bring a child into the world would be a disservice to both themselves and the child. In their minds, a child is better off not being born than being born into a negative environment and therefore abortion is perceived to be a kinder option… These women correspond roughly to the “abortion-minded” segment that many pro-lifers have discussed. Their conflicts focus...
We have no choice

We have no choice

Planned Parenthood (you know, the group that gets $542 million from taxpayers) wants to stop using the word “choice” when referring to abortion: After polling Americans on how they feel about abortion and about the terms “pro-life,” “pro-choice,” and other language surrounding the abortion debate, the nation’s largest abortion chain is moving away from talking about abortion in the decades-old language of “choice” in favor of language that emphasizes the “difficulty” of the abortion decision. Planned Parenthood has realized that the demographic they have to pursue and persuade is the majority of Americans who are somewhere in the middle on abortion… “It’s an opportunity to talk to an enormous number of people we haven’t been talking to as much as we should,” said Planned Parenthood president Cecile Richards, who was also in attendance to help introduce the organization’s upcoming advertising campaign, which will highlight how complex and personal the decision to have an abortion can be with taglines such as “Only you know what it’s like to walk in your shoes” and “Decisions about reproductive health are personal. You can help keep them that way.” I suppose they’ve done the polling and maybe I’m not talking to the right pro-choicers (oops, I’m already outdated), but most of them seem to root their position in the fact that abortion is legal, not that carrying a baby to term is difficult, or that the decision to abort should be less so. So the strategy is to suggest that, because a situation is difficult, no one else (even the law) should be allowed to intervene in the decision. But there are lots...